Screens are everywhere—in our cars, on appliances, and, of course, in our homes. With the widespread availability of smartphones, tablets, laptops, and TVs, children are exposed to screens and digital media at a very young age. From videos and social media to online games, today's kids are growing up immersed in a digital world, with access to multiple devices such as computers, e-readers, gaming consoles, and smartphones. As a result, it’s more important than ever for parents to monitor their children’s screen time and media consumption.
Why Monitor My Child’s Screen Time?
According to the American Academy of Pediatrics (AAP), digital media can significantly influence how children and teens feel, learn, think, and behave. This is why it’s essential for parents to understand the risks and benefits of media use and to help kids develop healthy habits, including self-regulation, critical thinking, and safety. The AAP recommends minimal media exposure for children under 18 months (except for video chatting), as unstructured playtime benefits a child’s developing brain more than electronic media.
As children grow, setting limits and actively monitoring their media consumption becomes even more important. The content they engage with will vary depending on their age, but the need for boundaries remains the same. While older children and teens who demonstrate responsibility may have more freedom to choose their digital activities, limits are still key.
Research from Common Sense Media shows a significant increase in media use among tweens (ages 8-12) and teens (ages 13-18), particularly in the two years since the COVID-19 pandemic. On average, 8- to 12-year-olds spend about five and a half hours daily on screens, while teens spend more than eight and a half hours. A startling 79% of teens say they use social media and online videos at least once a week, and 32% say they "couldn’t live without" YouTube. In addition, 71% of parents with children under 12 are concerned about the amount of time their kids spend on screens.
Pros and Cons of Digital Media
Digital media offers several benefits for children as they grow. It can be an educational resource for school projects, introduce new ideas, raise awareness about current events, and foster social connections. However, overuse of digital media can lead to several issues, including less time for schoolwork, family, sleep, and play. Excessive screen time can affect a child’s self-esteem, social skills, emotional development, and values.
There are also risks of cyberbullying and problematic internet use, both of which can cause long-term social, academic, and health issues. Children who spend too much time online are at higher risk for physical and psychosocial problems such as obesity, sleep deprivation, behavior issues, delays in language and social skills, and attention problems.
5 Tips for Balancing Screen Time and Keeping Kids Safe
- Set Boundaries to Make Time for Other Activities
Children need eight to 10 hours of sleep, physical activity, and time with family. Just as parents establish mealtimes and bedtimes, they should set clear rules for screen time that balance other activities like homework, family time, and preparation for bed. For example, some families enforce "no-phone" rules during meals or designate "no-screen zones," such as bedrooms. - Monitor the Content Your Child Is Accessing
It’s important to know what your child is watching or playing online. Ensure they are accessing age-appropriate content, such as educational programs for younger children. As kids grow older and their media tastes mature, it’s critical to remain vigilant about inappropriate content. Using family settings or parental controls can help, but these measures aren’t foolproof. Watching shows or playing games together allows parents to assess the messages being conveyed and offer alternatives if needed. - Pay Attention to How Kids Act
If your child seems angry, aggressive, or shows signs of depression or anxiety, it could be linked to their media consumption. Take time to listen and be present with your child. Engage in conversations about what they’re watching and how it’s affecting them. If you’re concerned, don’t hesitate to speak with your child’s pediatrician. - Help Kids Stay Safe Online
Although most social media platforms require users to be at least 13 years old, there are few checks on age. Make sure your child is honest about their age online. Be aware of potential threats, including online predators posing as children, cyberbullying by peers, and the risk of your child accidentally sharing private information or downloading harmful software. Resources like the National Cybersecurity Alliance provide valuable guidance for discussing online safety with kids. - Consider Setting Up a Media Plan
Every child is unique, and a one-size-fits-all approach to media use may not work for your family. The AAP’s media plan tool helps families create personalized guidelines based on their values and lifestyles. Additionally, the Center of Excellence on Social Media and Youth Mental Health offers age-appropriate resources to guide parents in managing media use.
Finally, be mindful of your own media habits. Your children will model their behavior after yours, so avoid excessive screen time during meals or family activities. Set an example by prioritizing in-person interactions—read a book together, play outside, or simply enjoy each other’s company without the presence of screens. Quality face-to-face time is irreplaceable for fostering your child’s learning and emotional development.
By setting boundaries and staying involved, parents can help their children develop a healthy relationship with digital media. Remember: what matters most for kids is real-life, quality "face time."
Bio - Malaika Elise Graves, MD, a Fellow of the American Academy of Pediatrics, completed her medical education at Michigan State University College of Human Medicine in East Lansing and her Pediatric Residency at the University of California, Irvine. A Los Angeles native, Dr. Graves has dedicated over 20 years to serving children and families, first as an educator and now as a pediatrician, bringing a wealth of experience and a deep commitment to the health and well-being of underserved communities.